How to Find a Soulmate at an Online Dating Site Now! Part 1 of 2
Don't give up now! Your soulmate may be only a chat, IM, wink or flirt away. I know because that's how I met my soulmate. Yep, that's right, he sent me a flirt and that was it. I met him within 3 weeks after registering with a online dating site like in 2007 at the age of 46 and we've been living happily ever after since. I'm now 49 and I feel like a teen again.
Just as it happened for me, it can happen for you. But, there's only one rule. You have to make the commitment to change your internal beliefs and old dating habits. In this 2 part series of How to Find A Soulmate articles, I'll show you in the next eight steps the exact action methods I used to attract my S-O-U-L-M-A-T-E at online dating site. Before you know it, you'll be sending out those long awaited wedding invitations.
Step 1 "S"
S = Sex can be a distraction to discovering if he's your soulmate. Take the time to get to know him on an intellectual, emotional, creative and spiritual level.
Quick Story: My soulmate Gary and I wanted to abstain from pre-marital sex because it had always been a distraction in our previous relationships. We were able to make the above connections since we knew in our hearts this was the right decision for us. I can't tell you how many mind-blowing orgasmic J conversations we've had over the last 2 ½ years. Yes, we are planning our wedding day and it'll definitely be worth the wait!
Action Step: Have you ever had an intellectually stimulating conversation, or worked on a creatively challenging project, or had an enlightening spiritual discussion with a male? If so, jot down what it FELT like. Was there an emotional or creative connection? Was it like a sexual one?
If you make the commitment to live each day, according to what your heart and not your head dictates, you'll find it getting easier and easier as you blaze your own path. Before you know it, you'll be inexplicably drawn to him.
I know I really got your attention with that "mind-blowing orgasmic conversations" bit. Now that we have sex out of the way, let's move on.
Step 2 "O"
O = Open your heart and be honest with yourself about how you really FEEL about him. Don't try to talk yourself into a relationship or even marriage just because you're lonely.
Quick Story: A good friend of mine talked himself into a destructive relationship because he had been divorced for a number of years and simply didn't want to be alone anymore. He knew this was a mistake because his heart was telling him she wasn't the right woman for him. He eventually left her and has now found his soulmate.
Action Step: Write down an incident where you engaged in some type of harmful behavior because you convinced yourself to do it. What did it FEEL like?
Step 3 "U"
U = Use your heart and your inner eyes when looking for your soulmate. Yes, you should be physically attracted to him, but is that enough to sustain a marriage made in heaven.
Quick Story: Gary and I both made a decision that one's inner beauty was far more important than the outer. I deliberately spent several hours writing my profile because I wanted my soulmate to FEEL the essence of my soul rather than being captivated by my picture.
Action Step: Set aside some time to review your profile best dating sites. Is it a full expression of your inner beauty? What qualities would you like to convey to your soulmate? Also, if you haven't completed your profile or dating questionnaire, that's probably a good indication that you're not ready for your soulmate. Perhaps, you need to take a break and then return to the site or maybe the site isn't for you. There are plenty of niche dating sites. When you're excited about the online dating process, you immediately jump right in and enthusiastically complete all of the requirements. Ask yourself how you FEEL about it because these FEELINGS/vibes will be reflected in your profile.